LIFT Yourself Up
Finding a safe place to sleep isn't just about shelter for LGBTQ+ youth; it's about finding a place where you're accepted, affirmed, and celebrated for who you are. Finding safe shelters and housing programs can be challenging, but it's not impossible. Remember, you're not alone. Many organizations and individuals are dedicated to supporting at-risk youth searching for a safe haven. One such example is a program that we, at CRi, offer: The LIFT program. Our program delivers a holistic approach to independent living for foster care youth (17-21). We offer apartment-based housing coupled with vital support services. These include vocational and educational assistance, life skills development, and therapeutic interventions such as counseling and substance abuse education. CRi also facilitates the creation of robust community support networks, ensuring a stable and successful transition from residential care.
Below, we’ve designed a guide to provide resources and tips to help you find suitable housing options.
Understanding the Need for LGBTQ+ Friendly Shelters
For homeless youth, living on the street is already challenging enough. For youth who identify as LGBTQ+, the challenges are amplified. Discrimination and rejection from family members are common triggers for homelessness. Once on the streets, these young people face increased risks of violence, abuse, and exploitation in environments that aren’t affirming. The mental health impacts of constant discrimination can be devastating.
What makes a shelter or program LGBTQ+ friendly? It goes beyond just tolerance. It’s about acceptance and affirmation; these create a safe space.
For a shelter to be welcoming to LGBTQ+ youth, it would require a few basic necessities, including:
- Non-discrimination policies: Explicitly stating that all individuals are welcome, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.
- Affirming language and practices: Using chosen names and pronouns, creating gender-neutral spaces, and avoiding assumptions about identity.
- Staff training on LGBTQ+ issues: Ensuring that staff members understand the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ+ youth and are equipped to provide appropriate support.
It's vital to distinguish between tolerance and genuine affirmation. While a shelter might tolerate your presence, an LGBTQ+-friendly space will celebrate it. These safe spaces are crucial for the mental and emotional well-being of young people who have often experienced rejection and trauma.
Finding and Evaluating Potential Shelters and Programs
So, how do you find these crucial havens? There are a few different avenues. For example, online directories and resources like The Trevor Project, Equality Virginia, and Point Foundation offer valuable resources and directories of LGBTQ+-friendly organizations. There are also local LGBTQ+ community centres that often have connections to local shelters and housing programs, and are willing to provide valuable referrals. Finally, you can seek out referrals from trusted organizations and/or individuals such as a social worker, counsellor, or any other trusted adult.
When evaluating potential shelters, however, it's important to ask direct questions. Some examples could include questions like:
- "What are your non-discrimination policies?"
- "What kind of training do your staff members receive on LGBTQ+ issues?"
- "Can I observe the environment or talk to current residents?"
Observe the environment for signs of inclusivity. Do you see posters or resources related to LGBTQ+ issues? Do staff members use inclusive language?
Remember, it’s not just about finding a bed. It’s about finding a place that provides comprehensive support services. Look for programs that offer case management, counselling, and access to resources that can help you rebuild your life.
Exploring Inclusive Housing Programs
While emergency youth shelters provide immediate relief, inclusive housing programs offer longer-term stability and support. These programs are designed to help young people transition to independent living.
The benefits of these programs include stability and support for long-term success, opportunities for personal growth and development, and access to education and employment resources.
When it comes to the time when you start exploring housing programs, look for key features such as case management and ongoing support and life skills training that includes budgeting, cooking, and preparations for entering the workforce. Most importantly, a housing program should offer comprehensive mental health and counselling services for its residents.
There’s a lot to think about when it comes to stable housing, but the first thing that needs to happen is to ensure the youth’s most critical needs are met.
Advocating for Your Needs and Rights
Navigating the world of shelters and housing programs can sometimes feel overwhelming, especially when you're already facing significant challenges. It's crucial to remember that you have rights and that your voice matters. Advocating for yourself ensures that your needs are met and that you're treated with dignity and respect.
Understanding Your Rights:
Familiarize yourself with the non-discrimination policies of the shelter or program. These policies should explicitly protect individuals based on sexual orientation and gender identity. It also helps to know your rights under local, state, and federal laws. Many jurisdictions have laws that protect LGBTQ+ individuals from discrimination in housing.
If you experience discrimination or mistreatment, document everything. Keep a record of dates, times, specific incidents, and the names of individuals involved. This documentation can be invaluable if you need to file a complaint.
Effective Communication:
Communicate your needs clearly and assertively. If you have specific needs related to your gender identity or sexual orientation, don't hesitate to express them. By using "I" statements you can express your feelings and needs without placing blame. For example, instead of saying, "You're making me uncomfortable," try saying, "I feel uncomfortable when..."
If you're uncomfortable speaking directly to staff members, consider writing a letter or email. This can give you time to organize your thoughts and ensure that you communicate your concerns effectively. If you feel that your concerns aren't being addressed, escalate the issue to a supervisor or administrator.
Building a Support Network:
Connect with LGBTQ+ advocacy organizations, such as The Trevor Project, the Human Rights Campaign, or the National LGBTQ Task Force. These organizations can provide valuable resources, support, and legal assistance. Also, seek out peer support groups or online communities where you can connect with other LGBTQ+ individuals who have similar experiences. Sharing your experiences and learning from others can be empowering.
Outside of groups and organizations, it's also helpful to identify trusted adults who can provide support and guidance. This might include a social worker, counsellor, teacher, or mentor. Remember; allies exist. Don't be afraid to seek them out and lean on them for support if needed.
Taking Action:
If you do experience discrimination or mistreatment, file a complaint with the appropriate authorities. This might include the shelter or program's administration, a local human rights commission, or a legal advocacy organization. If you witness discrimination or mistreatment against another individual, speak up and offer your support.
Empower yourself by learning about your rights and available resources. Knowledge is power, and it can help you navigate challenging situations. Remember that you aren't alone. There are people who care about you and want to help. Don't hesitate to reach out.
By understanding your rights, communicating effectively, and building a support network, you can advocate for yourself and ensure that you're treated with dignity and respect. Remember, your voice matters, and you (or your loved one) deserve a safe and affirming place to call home.
